A 21 year old guy had worn a pair of contact lenses during a barbecue party.(An event or meal at which food is cooked outdoors over an open grill or fire)
While barbecuing he stared at the fire charcoals continuously for 2-3 minutes.
After a few minutes, he started to scream for help and moved rapidly, jumping up and down.
No one in the party knew why he was doing this?
Then he admitted into the Hospital, the doctor said he’ll be blind permanently because of the contact lenses that he had worn.
Contact lenses are made by plastics, and the heat from the charcoal melted his contact lenses.
DO NOT WEAR CONTACT LENSES WHERE OVERHEATING AND FLAMES ARE CONCERNED…. OR WHILE COOKING…!
Spread this around because this sounds terrible as fuck!
Note before I begin: asexuality is a fluid spectrum that includes grey-ace and demisexual folks. This is also not a post about aromanticism – honestly, that deserves its own post, and possibly from someone more qualified to comment. Asexual people have a lot of different experiences with and feelings about sex. What follows is how I feel about how asexuality has been represented in the fics I have read based on my own experience of my asexuality. Your thoughts and experiences will, probably, vary a great deal.
Also, other issues of representation - including the dearth of ace fics including female aces, aces of colour, trans* aces… basically aces who aren’t white cis men - are extremely important and I couldn’t even attempt to do them justice here. I will attempt to address them at a later date, but as a white, cis woman I’m not sure I could talk about them properly. If anyone would like to try - or to talk to me about these issues so I can make a more educated attempt, that would be amazing.
This has been a PSA.
Open up a fanfiction, one of those rare breeds that has an asexual character.
Meet Character A. Let’s call them Sam.
Meet Character B. Let’s call them Jo.
Sam is asexual. Sam doesn’t experience sexual attraction. Sam doesn’t want to have sex. However, Sam is a romantic person who enjoys physical closeness.
Jo is a sexual person. Jo experiences sexual attraction towards some people, and Jo enjoys sex. Jo wants to have a close, romantic relationship, and to Jo that involves sex.
Sam and Jo meet. Sam experiences romantic feelings for Jo. Sam wants to be close to Jo, emotionally and in a physical, non-sexual way.
Jo experiences romantic and sexual feelings for Sam. Jo wants to be close to Sam, emotionally, and in a physical, non-sexual way. Jo also really wants to have sex with Sam.
What happens now, in 90% (not a scientific statistic) of fics I have read, is that sooner or later Sam and Jo will end up in bed together. Sam will realise that sex is important to Joe. So Sam, because they love Jo just that much, will go about bringing Jo sexual pleasure, and Sam will enjoy doing this because Jo is enjoying it.
Then they will cuddle and everything will be fine.
Cut to me, clicking out of the fic, feeling utterly dispirited. I thought that maybe this time the fic wouldn’t fall into the narrative that romantic relationships must, in some way, include sex in order to be legitimate. That the asexual character wasn’t required, in some way, to compromise on their identity.
Often in the fic they aren’t doing this, by the way. In fics as written, the asexual character is totally happy with this arrangement. In real life, many asexuals are in sexual relationships and they are happy and fulfilled - some asexuals, whilst they don’t experience sexual attraction, do have libidos and can experience sexual desire. The problem isn’t with this narrative by itself. The problem is when this is the dominant representation of asexual relationships in fandom.
*seductively puts on Mickey ears*
“So I heard you like Disney…”
someone fix this gif and make her put on mickey ears!
my hand slipped
THIS IS AMAZING
I want to meet you guys in real life but I don’t want you guys to meet me in real life
BEST FRIENDS YOU DON’T GET TO TALK TO VERY OFTEN BC YOU’RE BOTH JUST REALLY BUSY WITH SCHOOL OR WHATEVER BUT ITS NOT A BIG DEAL BC YOURE STILL THE BEST OF FRIENDS NO MATTER WHAT, ARE THE BEST KINDS OF FRIENDS IN THE WHOLE WORLD
This explains it perfectly!